My husband does not treat me equally with him?

My husband and I have a lot of things in common. In general we are a great couple and happy most of the time. However, my husband does not treat me equally with him, but more like he is more senior, on a higher position, or many times I feel he treats me like his daughter. (I am 36 and he is 39). He can get upset or angry and shout at me if I do something wrong, but I can never do the same if he does. Whenever there is argument or a quarrel it just means he complains about me or shouts at me, I can never "talk back" to him because that would make him very furious and even more aggressive. I feel I am so excellent at anger management. With him, I can never get angry. Normally with other people, or at office, or with friends, I feel more relaxed because I can "explode" and release my anger and stress when it occurs, but with him, even when I am very upset or mad about something he does or says, I have to keep it inside. I am afraid I might go crazy someday because I need to fake my calm face and hold it in too much. What should I do now? I love him and I know he loves me. I don't want a divorce because my son is just one year old and he is a great father. I don't know what to do. So many times I wanted to leave him but then I weighed all the good things about him and I wondered it is just a fair trade-off. One thing I need to add: I already had serious talks to him about this and he admitted that I was right but he did not change, and I know he never will. I want a husband, not a father. I just wish someday I could burst out in my anger and he accept that. But I have lived with him over 8 years (over 4 years in marriage), and I know him so well that he will never change. By the way we are Asians, so maybe he is just being a typical Asian? (but we are not that traditional any way) My friends cannot help me, but maybe somebody here can? Thank you very much.