How do you leave baggage from a past relationship behind?

Well, the first step was acknowledging that you have an issue that needs fixing. So... since you've already done that, you can move on. Try to be alone for awhile. Give yourself some time to relax a bit. When/If you get into a new relationship, try to remember what got you out of the last relationship. From my experience, I've found that when you are truly in love with the person you are with, you treat them differently. I was married before & I bossed him around like he was my child. I'm not proud of it, but he took it so I did it. When I met my current husband, he was very independent and made me want to be good to him. Sounds kinda mean but its true. I think once you find your true soul mate then you won't want to treat him that way. So you'll think about your words & actions more carefully... hope this helps. ;)